Wednesday, November 30, 2011

Decisions, Decisions..

As stated in a previous post I'll be seeing Kevin Spacey twice in NY next year.  I'm reconsidering that though.

Times are tough, especially financially and I'm thinking of selling my ticket to the January show.  The February date was my planned trip with Jill & Maureen from the get go...the January one just kind of happened.  Giving up January means giving up the cast talk afterwards which would of been nice; but sometimes sacrifices must be made.

I'm not quite sure what to do...but I'm thinking if I can sell it, that would be the wise decision and besides it's not like I'm not going at all.

Decisions...Decisions....

Spunky & Sebastian



Today was another bittersweet day.  As mentioned in the previous post we had both Spunky (top) and Sebastian put down.  For the most part Spunky has been pretty inactive for quite a long time.  She would find various places and that would be "her place" for weeks and months at a time.  Though for the most part she was out of the way...I'm now seeing emptiness in all those spots.  Sebastian was constantly underfoot in the kitchen, always wanting milk (which made him sick).  When I got home last night he was on the stove licking the yet unwashed pan from the previous night's dinner.  Normally that wouldn't be allowed, but I let him alone.  This morning he had all the milk he wanted, I felt he deserved it.

Despite 3 dogs, 2 cats, a rabbit and a turtle.....the house seems awfully empty.


There’s something missing in my home,
I feel it day and night.
I know it will take time and strength,
before things feel quite right.
But just for now, I need to mourn,
my heart - it needs to mend.
Though some say it’s “just a pet,”
I know I lost my friend.
You’ve brought such laughter to my home
and richness to my days...
A constant friend through joy and loss,
with gentle loving ways.
Companion, pal and confidant,
a friend I won’t forget,
you’ll live for always in my heart,
my sweet forever pet. 

Change

 "Friendship isn't about whom you have known the longest....
it's about who came and never left your side."


I happened across the above quote when I was having one of those "be the bigger person" moments.  And I liked it...in fact I think there is a lot of truth in it.

I've wasted too much time on friendships that aren't true friendships at all; and as I've gotten older I realize that the true ones are right there-ALWAYS-and not just at their convenience.

My friend Kim mentioned on FaceBook that her New Year's Resolution is to learn to say "No" guilt free.  I couldn't agree more - it's going to be mine too.  Actually, there's going to be a lot of change in this old girl come this next year.

And yes Rodney....despite the change....I will be the bigger person!!

Tuesday, November 29, 2011

Ho Hum......

Rodney:  Sometimes you have to be the bigger person.
Me:  I know that, but why do I always have to be the bigger person.
Rodney:  Just be the bigger person...
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Today would of been Rodney's 50th Birthday and I once again hear that conversation that we had so many times.  Actually I don't think a time goes by that when I just don't want to bite my tongue...and I'll hear him whispering in my ear "Be the bigger person."  And he's right; I let it slide and a little later I realize that it wasn't an important enough issue to make a deal out of nor was the person worth the effort.  The day I hear him say "Go for it!" will be the day I know it's an issue worth addressing.

But today would of been his birthday and it makes the day rather bittersweet :(

On top of that we've finally made the decision to have Spunky put down...and not just Spunky but Sebastian as well.  We've known for a while that it was time for Spunky and we just kept pushing it further and further back; then Sebastian happened.  We could probably let him go for awhile but in a few months it will just be the same thing..so we decided on both.  We're dropping them off in the morning.  I hate when pets get old.

It hasn't been a real upbeat day at all...and we've both been sick since Sunday.

Saturday, November 26, 2011

Ahhhh......A Kevin Spacey Countdown-TWICE!!

Kevin Spacey is coming to Brooklyn, NY to the Brooklyn Academy of Music with his Shakespearean play Richard III.  I have TWO tickets for the play, one on January 26th and the other on February 24th.  The January 26th show includes a cast talk afterwards; I'm not sure that Kevin will be part of that as this role seems to be very hard on him that he's not doing autographs afterwards; but I'm sure the cast talk will be interesting with or without him.

I'm meeting up with Jackie and her hubby on the 26th and Ginger may come in and have dinner with us.  I'll also see Jill & her hubby on the 26th at the show.  The 24th show will include Jill and Maureen (who's coming in from Scotland), Pamela and I'm hoping to catch up with Lyn on the 25th for lunch (she goes to the show that night).  My only regret is not being able to meet up with Joanne, Jen and Kelly...if money pops up, then yes I'll go to NY even if its only for a day...but right now, it's a no go.  :(

But Kevin Spacey is coming up after the first of the year!!

The Staycation Is Coming To An End

I can't believe my vacation time is almost over.  Has the week really gone that fast???

Thanksgiving was very nice.  We went to my step-daughter's and got some time in with the grandkids.  It's very nice that we are able to do this - most "exes" can't be in the same room together much less share holidays...but we all do it.  Hubby's ex and I have always gotten along and he and her do as well.

Really didn't do too much on Black Friday.  I would NEVER go shopping that day at all - nothing is ever that cheap to walk into those crowds.  Hubby and I did venture to the local pet store, where that dear little puggle is still there!  Can't understand why no one hasn't bought him yet. 

Wednesday, November 23, 2011

Another Day....

Yesterday I spent with CC and Josh.  We went shopping in Chambersburg where I picked up 4 sweaters at JC Penney's at a very decent price - I was very happy.  I also managed to get Colton and Caden's Christmas present...so I've got that started.  I remember when I use to be done by now...not anymore.

Hubby wants a pair of ski gloves for Christmas.  He has an old pair, so I had to look up the brand online and yep, they still exist!  So I'll be ordering those.  I want the Kindle Fire and I believe he plans on getting that for me - I'm much more the electronic girl rather than the jewelry girl!

Today I took my Mom to lunch and then we went to my Aunt's for the computer.  My Aunt had already loaded most of the programs in herself but was having issues with the virus program.  That was because the computer came with a trial version of a virus program and we had to get rid of that.  Other than that, it was pretty uneventful, which seems rather odd considering all the phone calls she made to me regarding this.

But in the morning, hubby was walking dogs and when he went to take Toby out, Lucy ran out the door.  When this happens...she won't come to you...she thinks we're playing a game.  I went out with him and we tried to catch her but she kept running from us.  Then all of a sudden she came running down the alley, chasing a.....CHICKEN!!  I have no idea who in our neighborhood has chickens, but one was loose.  Fortunately that chase wore her out and we were able to catch her ad the chicken wandered off unharmed.

Tomorrow is Thanksgiving!!

Monday, November 21, 2011

An Overdue Weight Loss Post

This evening I made One Pot Chicken & Potatoes from over at Green Lite Bites.  It was very good that even hubby liked it!  You could do a lot with this recipe, I think next time I'll use frozen mixed veggies instead of just peas.  This would be great inside chicken pot pie too!!

My weight doesn't seem to want to go back down, as a matter of fact it is slowly increasing which is bothersome.  I've looked over my logs and nothing is out of place which bothers me.  This is something that I've noticed is consistent with those that are short....Points Plus makes it hard to lose when you're close to goal and it makes it hard to maintain.  Actually for me to maintain, I can't go over the lowest points allowed for weight loss mode - how can my lose points and maintain points be the same????    It's getting frustrating. 

Still waiting to hear what the changes for Weight Watchers are going to be.  I do know that Lifetime Members will have access to E-tools for free if they are at goal; exercise will really be pushed and they are mum about anything else.

Time will tell.

Sunday, November 20, 2011

Another Long Day

Well CC, Josh and I went to a craft fair today and all I bought were 3 homemade dog treats....we then went to the movies and saw "Breaking Dawn" which was very very bad.....I don't know why I keep punishing myself.

Though my aunt didn't show up at my Mom's today, she did call there looking for me (I feel like I'm being stalked)...when I got home she had had my cousin pm me on FaceBook (now it's cyber stalking).  I told my cousin to let her know that Wednesday afternoon will be the earliest she'll see me.

It will also be the very last time I do computer work for anyone other than a select few on a list...the ones that don't hound you to death and the ones that don't expect you to produce miracles.  "No" when it comes to others computers is my new motto.

Taking Mom to lunch on Wednesday and making her go with me since this is all her fault to begin with.  Maybe with her there I won't have my aunt standing over top of me trying to "back seat drive"; yeah she does that...makes me wonder why she needs me at all.

Saturday, November 19, 2011

Long Day...

We're winning the battle with the fleas, but we still are fighting them.  Today we vacuumed and sprayed all the living room furniture and rugs and I washed the curtains and bedding.  It gets better each day, getting rid of the carpet was very smart.

During the course of it hubby thought we should take the dogs to the dog park.  We arrive...one area is for small dogs, one for large dogs (our dogs are medium so we have either choice).  However there were large dogs in both areas.  We choose one.  The lady had two dogs with her....the one dog and Toby didn't like each other....the dog was 5 times the size of Toby...it got ugly.  We were able to get them apart and we moved to the other area which was now vacant.  Toby does have a small bite, so we're watching him.  Probably going to require a Vet visit on Monday, he limps but is eating and drinking.

My aunt is still leaving phone calls.  Yesterday she called work but left no message but I recognized the number.  Hubby and I were out and about today besides house cleaning; when I checked messages there she was again...telling me once again that she received the software and then not understanding what is going on, am I out of town or what?   This is what is going on.....I'M BUSY!!!!  When I have the time to do it, I'll do it!  Yes, technically I should call and tell her that, but I'm afraid I'd be way too nasty as I haven't gotten over her calling my parents and worrying them the other night nor the fact that she thinks if you don't have children, you have all the time in the world.  So for now, I'm not returning the call.  And I blame this all on my mother who offered my service several months ago with the Netflix....and that ended up being much more stressful than it needed to be (I couldn't help that their internet service is crap and thus Netflix wouldn't stream right, but you would of thought I should of been able to solve that and they drove me nuts over it).  They would ask people and then call me with all this advice they received....rather than just having the person they asked do it; it was a living nightmare for weeks.  I told my mother to NEVER give my phone number out again.  But, of course, it was too late in this area.

I'm spending the day with CC and Josh (who's home from college for the holiday) tomorrow and am looking forward to it.  I have no doubt in my mind that my aunt will show up at my parents trying to locate me (since I'm normally there on Sundays)...so having this planned day couldn't be at a better time.  Yes, my aunt would do that and yes it is at the point that it is more like harassment; but right now I just am too busy to deal with it.

I am on staycation right now and am so going to enjoy not being at work this week....but I'm still going to be busy even without kids!

Friday, November 18, 2011

Just For The Record...I'm Alive

I'm an ADULT.  I have a LIFE.  I have a JOB.

Today was my typical Thursday...work all day, Weight Watchers, then out with CC.

If you remember from a prior post, over the weekend I had helped my one aunt set up a new laptop (yeah, don't ask, what could there possibly be to set up?); there was some software that hadn't arrived yet and it was due any day (again - simple procedure...but why didn't you buy a laptop that was pre-loaded?).  ANYWAY....

I'm due to be on vacation next week, so I'm trying like heck to get work caught up which is a losing battle.  I've brought stuff home to do, I'll probably have stuff at home with me during the vacation to do...in the midst of all of it the State wanted us to run a list of inmates that are due to give DNA samples - not an easy task since the computer cannot produce a report that way...it takes me two days to prepare this list thus cutting into my trying to catch up before vacation time.

Wednesday evening hubby and I went to the store and grabbed something to eat.  My aunt had left a message that her software had arrived.  It was late, I didn't return the call and I really don't know when I'm going to have the time to take care of that.  I went to bed, worry about it later.

Today at work, besides a meeting, I spent most of the day filing.  I don't answer my phone when doing this or the filing wouldn't get done.  On my periodical breaks I check my messages and return the BUSINESS calls and any personal calls that seem relevant.  My aunt's message (again) in regards to her software was neither a business call or relevant in my book.

I finished work, went home, walked the dogs, hopped in my car, went to Weight Watchers with CC and then we grabbed something to eat and went back to her house and watched TV (our normal Thursday night).  It was during the beginning of "Game of Thrones" that I thought I was hearing Loverboy's "Working For The Weekend" which is my phone's ringtone.  I got up to get my phone, no one really ever calls me.

I missed the call but could see it was from my one sister, she didn't leave a message.  I checked thru my email on the phone and realized that I had 2 messages on the home phone...one from my aunt's number (who was really beginning to pluck my nerves at this point) and the other from my parent's number.  Hmmmm....parent's number and sister's call are way too close; it concerned me that something was wrong especially since my Dad is just getting over pneumonia for the umpteenth time.  I called my sister...our conversation:

Me:  Hello
Sister:  Are you all right?
Me:  Yeah....why?
Sister:  Where are you?
Me:  I'm at CC's....
Sister:  Well Aunt ****called Mom and said she's been calling you all day at work and you weren't there and she's called your house and you aren't there.  Mom is worried sick because she can't find you.
Me:  (now I am ticked)  Well, I'm not missing and <insert aunt's name> computer is not my priority at the moment.
Sister:  Well do you want to call Mom or do you want me to do it?
Me:  I'll call her.

I call my mother:

Mom:  Laura where are you?
Me:  I'm at CC's.
Mom:  I've been worried sick.
Me:  There was no reason for anyone to worry.  I wasn't missing.
Mom:  Well <insert aunt's name> said you weren't at work today and you weren't at home.  I was worried sick.
Me:  Well, that's a lie, I was at work all day and at work, I work - I'm very backed up.  And tonight was Weight Watchers night, like every Thursday night.  <insert aunt's name> has to realize that her computer is not my priority.  I have things to do.
blah, blah, blah....

I was probably a little attitudey with my Mom, but it just p*ssed me off.  Just because I hadn't returned a phone call someone thought that gave them the right to call my family and worry them!!!  REALLY???  It's not unusual for me not to speak to family members everyday...it was disrespectful to worry them.

The other thing that ticks me is my aunt has a daughter that is capable of loading programs onto the laptop...but my aunt won't call her because she has kids and that keeps her busy.  Really?  Her kids are school age and thus in school all day; and my cousin doesn't work....I would think she has more time then me.  I may not have kids, but I do have a life.

Want to know why I love animals so much????  You don't have to deal with crap like the above.  People create drama where there isn't any!

Tuesday, November 15, 2011

So I Became The Bigger Person....

Rodney:  Sometimes you have to be the bigger person.
Me:  I know that, but why do I always have to be the bigger person.
Rodney:  Just be the bigger person....
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That's one of the normal conversations Rodney and I use to have.  I really miss them, I really miss him.  There isn't a day that goes by that I don't miss him and I'm so very glad that God allowed him to be part of my life, if even for a little while.

But that conversation at the top, hit me hard this week.  As my last post indicated, I was outraged at my one co-worker.  I was all ready for her Monday morning...but Rodney's words kept whispering in my ear "sometimes you have to be the bigger person".  So well, that's what I did.  I took the high road and let it go.  The important thing is that there are needy people that we're helping and that's all that matters.

Now mind you, I did get a few digs in.  At least twice she mentioned that she was sure we'd meet goal - I reminded her that my goal had already been reached.  She'd smile and walk away...I think it got the point across.  ;)

Sunday, November 13, 2011

Not Happy At All.....

My friend's recent passing has been very difficult for me.  It's hard to go to work and not see him there; not have our daily little chats, not have that one person I can go to with all my problems...it's hard.

The one thing he and I did together was the Annual Food Drive.  For every 100 cans of food we collected, he'd match it.  He's not here to do that anymore.  But the food drive has special memories for me because it was something we did together.

When the notice came out for the Food Drive this year, I immediately sent out an email stating that if each person brings in 2 items we would make a goal of 200 cans.  There are some that work there that will not give because they food goes to "inmates".  I explained in my email that we cannot hold the families of inmate's responsible for the inmate's actions and continued with the bad economy and that people like us are now without work.  I also added a humorous - "we're not talking about hard shelled crabs here, we're asking for a can of food" - which many got a good kick out of.

We were off Friday for Veteran's Day but one of the ladies in my office decided to work and take her holiday at another time.  Imagine my surprise when this email popped up on my phone:


"As of today the turn out has been great however, I would like to match or surpass last years total and make Capt. **** proud that we look out for others.. Last year we collected 393 cans and $100.00, to date we have 128 cans and $10.00, the last day for this is 11/16/11 so please look into your hearts and give to not only the needy but as a great remembrance to Capt. ****…."

I have several issues with this; the first and foremost?  The BITCH stole my food drive!!!  It was the one thing that Rodney and I did together, it was special to me and she took it away!  Second?  She changed the goal - she even doubled it!  Last and the worst?  She used his memory to guilt people into giving!!

AND..... I HAD someone willing to match the 200 cans only because she wasn't involved in this (she collects for everything and drives everyone insane).  And because, well they know this is something important to me.  But they aren't doing it now.

Last year was very successful (she fails to mention in the email that some of those items came from the other division and the total was for both divisions, not just us) and then it was ruined because they wanted a "photo"  with everyone to show "looky what we did".  I refused to be part of that, as I don't do it for the recognition.  Charity should be done just for that...charity; not to get credit for it.

You may be thinking that maybe she's just trying to help....well maybe.....but she does this with everything - she can't just let someone do something without involving herself and taking total control.  And maybe she doesn't realize that she does this.....but she's about to find out.  I am not a happy camper!


Wednesday, November 9, 2011

Tomorrow, Tomorrow....

Tomorrow is Thursday and I'm so looking forward to it!  I get to see CC every Thursday (like we never get to see each other-lol) and well, due to a Friday Holiday, it's the end of the work week.

Not planning too much for the weekend - going to help my one aunt set up her new laptop (I much prefer helping set up the new computers rather than trying to salvage one that needs replaced) and hopefully get some cleaning done as the house really needs it.

But other than that - I'm going to be L A Z Y!!!

Sunday, November 6, 2011

Long Fun Day

Yesterday CC and I went shopping in the Hanover-Gettysburg area.  We initially were in search of Christmas Bazaars and such, but couldn't find any.  So we shopped in a few thrift stores (didn't find anything) and then did regular shopping.

We started for breakfast at the Flamingo in Fayetteville, PA.  Food is very good.  We each ordered 2 blueberry pancakes, next time we'll each order 1.  They were HUGE and we couldn't eat all of it.  Dinner was at Texas Roadhouse where we had the roasted chicken, highly recommended!

We hit gold at the new Target in Hanover.  All Halloween candy was 70% off.  This Target must of expected huge sells in Halloween candy and didn't sell any for Halloween.  They had tons leftover.  I'm not kidding you when I say I got close to $50.00 worth of candy for $10.00.  The other stores all failed in comparison with their Halloween leftovers.

After shopping, we did - what else - went to a movie!  "Tower Heist" was really good and funny and the theatre in Gettysburg is very nice.

It was a tiring but fun day!